In today’s digital era, the word narcissistic can easily be said to those who like to take selfies or take selfies, then upload them to online social media. But actually, the term narcissist is not that simple.
In medical science, narcissism may be a sign of a personality or mental disorder when a person is overly more selfish, feels superior to others, and has less empathy for others. But behind that, when being criticized by others, the feelings of narcissists are easily hurt because they are very sensitive.
Are you a person with that kind of character?
Characteristics of Narcissistic Personality
Narcissistic personality disorder usually begins to appear when a person reaches adolescence or early into adulthood. Here are the characteristics of a person with a narcissistic personality from a medical point of view:
- Putting his own interests above everything else.
- Feel himself the greatest, unique, special, and hope people think of him.
- Often monopolizes conversations.
- Indulging in his achievements and talents excessively.
- Always wanting to be adored or cared for. If this is not obtained, he will be offended, angry, or hurt.
- Easy to envy.
- Always expect preferential treatment.
- Inability or reluctance to think about other people’s feelings.
- Have high self-confidence.
- Has the notion that many people are jealous of him.
- Behave arrogant or arrogant.
- Often fantasizes about the things he dreams of, such as being successful at work, being in charge of his environment, being the best among his friends, or fantasizing about the perfect but unrealistic life.
- Likes to take advantage of others to achieve his dreams.
- Difficult to accept criticism.
Narcissists may appear to have normal self-confidence like most people. But in fact, it is not so. People with normal self-confidence are usually not cocky, while narcissists are rarely humble. They tend to think of themselves as better and more important than others. Besides, narcissists are also prone to engaging in impulsive behavior, such as risky sex and gambling.
In fact, doctors do not yet know why people have narcissistic traits. However, this personality disorder is likely caused by parenting styles that spoil their children too much or forcing children to become talented people. It could also be caused by the parenting style of parents who like to criticize their children.
This disorder is also believed to be the result of a combination of social interaction factors, genetic factors, and psychological factors.
Don’t Maintain Your Narcissistic Traits
If you feel you have any of the traits listed above, it is advisable to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. Especially if the narcissistic behavior or personality disorder has affected your life.
So far there is no cure for narcissistic personality disorder. However, handling narcissistic traits through counseling, or more precisely psychotherapy, can help narcissistic personality disorder sufferers to lead a better life.
Through this therapy, you will be guided to better understand the feelings of others so that your social relationships can be maintained. Also, you will be guided to understand how you feel.
It takes time and patience to get results from psychotherapy. You also need to learn to be more positive, especially with your narcissistic traits that can arise from time to time.
Your narcissistic nature can come up and hinder the course of therapy by getting into your mind to stop taking therapy. Maybe you will be influenced into thinking that psychotherapy is not important and only takes up your time.
Even so, you shouldn’t give up. Counter narcissistic traits by staying focused on the original goal of becoming a better person, regularly visiting each counseling session, and engaging in physical activities that can relax your body and mind, such as yoga.
Narcissism should not be maintained. Deal with it as soon as possible so that you avoid all the complications that are triggered by narcissism, such as social exclusion, falling into alcohol or drug abuse, depression, or worse, having thoughts of suicide.